I get it...
You've tried being less reactive, you've tried date nights, you've even tried couples therapy-
You try meeting all their needs, then you get burned out & resentful so you try boundaries-
and when none of it works you think 'there's no point. nothing I do matters anyways'.
Then you say fck it & give up on trying not to react - which is when you either cut them off and shut down OR you stop holding back and tell them what you really think.
The problem?- It's happening all the time.
Maybe you manage to stretch your willpower to be less reactive through the week but when the weekend rolls around-
and you're frustrated because they don't want to come to family lunch and allll the unexpressed anger comes out.
And it's like every time you swear you'll get your sht together-
you just end up feeling inadequate because you can't seem to get off the emotional roller coaster and take control of your own reactions.
And if you're like most partners before they start working with me, you probably feel helpless, frustrated and tired of thinking about your relationship 24/7
Which one of these applies to you?
- You swear you'll respond more maturely next time & then when you inevitably react you go into a shame spiral for days.
- You pendulum swing between 'just be grateful' and 'what if I'm settling? I want more'.
- You avoid spending time with them, then you feel bad so you overcompensate with people pleasing- which just makes you more resentful.
You're not alone. It's not your fault. Pinky promise.
So if you've ever:
- Scheduled regular date nights to try and reconnect
- Made compromises to try and agree on a mutually satisfying solution
- Focused on communicating differently to resolve conflicts
- Given your partner an ultimatum to do couples therapy together
and you're wondering 'why is this not working for me?'
We've been sold a fake view of what love looks like by the $65 billion romance film industry for years.
The romance film industry & other cultural influences perpetuate the idea that there's a perfect match out there for you.
And that when you find this perfectly compatible soulmate- you'll never clash or have the same old argument. Everything will go smoothly.
And so when you find yourself stuck in a rut with your partner, you get distracted worrying about your compatibility rather than equipping yourself with the skills you need to manage your differences effectively.
And then the more incompatible you feel, the more certain you feel that your partner needs to change-
which keeps you focused on things you can't control- which makes you feel more helpless as you keep trying to follow the path of fixing your marriage that you know isn't working for you.
Here's the deal👇🏽
If you don't learn how to spot when you're slipping in to the cycle of disconnection & gain the skills to course correct-
your relationship will continue like groundhog day with no end in sight.
You will continue to live life obsessing over trying to fix your marriage rather than enjoying it.
..and if you're anything like me, you've put your entire life on hold telling yourself
- I'll do this when our marriage is in a better place.
- I'll do this when I have more time.
- I'll do this after 6 months of couples therapy.
It's time to change your story
Where else in your life are you waiting for things outside of your control to change - so that YOU can change?
The only difference between you and the partners who break out of the rut? They decided they were going to stop doing the same things over and over again.
They decided to make a change.
Hi there! I'm Megs,
MY MARRIAGE WAS ON THE BRINK OF DIVORCE FOR 4 YEARS & IT DESTROYED ME.
I started my self growth journey wanting to manage my emotions so I could communicate better with my husband-
But my new self awareness quickly turned into beating myself up unless I felt positive all the time, and so any time I reacted emotionally to something I thought it meant I had yet more healing & growth to do.
I was constantly psychoanalysing both of us. And the fact that he wasn't interested in self growth made me worry that I'd outgrow him or that we weren't compatible.
I believed the only way for us to overcome our problems was for him to be as committed to self growth as I was. All the marriage & relationship advice seemed to confirm this too- so my emotional wellbeing became 100% dependent on him prioritising his healing.
The problem? Needing him to prioritise self growth slowed down rebuilding our relationship.
So let me ask you this.
Do you really want to keep being a prisoner of codependent relationship strategies that don’t serve you?
Do you want to stay in this cycle of responding, messing up, starting over- and have it last for years?
Or, do you want to finally learn how to step off the emotional rollercoaster, communicate more effectively and feel more confident & secure in your marriage?
INTRODUCING
HEIRLOOM MARRIAGE SOCIETY
A RESULTS ORIENTED MEMBERSHIP
That helps you take laser focused action each month so you make consistent progress towards the marriage you want.
Your complete, holistic system for healing the cycle of disconnection & overcoming your persistent challenges, so you can rebuild your marriage better than ever and model healthy, emotionally secure communication for your kids.
HMS is the only community where you fix the roommates rut from the inside out in just a matter of weeks in as little as 15 minutes a day
- Truly forgive your partner for the past while keeping the lessons so you can finally go all-in on rebuilding your relationship with them in an emotionally safe way.
- Discover how to heal the cycle of disconnection so you can actually move forwards instead of going round in circles on your recurring problems.
- Master 6 simple no nonsense communication approaches with a plug and play format that takes the intimidation out of communicating vulnerably with your partner.
- Learn a proven, powerful process for making confident decisions so you can finally overcome your recurring relationship problems and start getting your needs met now while those problems are a work in progress
So you can be like them...
Break Out of the Roommates Rut in 4 Simple Steps
Step One
Heal the Cycle of Disconnection
- Uncover why you react the way you do when you're triggered
- Learn to spot the cycle of disconnection so you can course correct & prevent communication breakdown
- Learn the 3 simple steps to respond instead of react so you can stop having the same old fight and create a better outcome.
- Release the past while keeping the lessons. Free yourself from the pain of the past, while bringing the wisdom you need to make decisions to protect yourself so you can go all-in and fully reinvest with your partner again
Step Two
Master No Nonsense Communication
- Understand exactly why your attempts to repair haven't worked in the past despite your best efforts
- Discover how to stop being ruled by your emotions & communicate from a secure, clear head
- How to express yourself & advocate for your needs including how setting an effective boundary can be the most loving option for your relationship.
- Simple, no nonsense communication approaches for you to tailor to your unique relationship & circumstances.
Step Three
Overcome Recurring Problems
- How to fully reinvest in overcoming your recurring problems without the fear of 'are we too incompatible?'
- Discover the 'false third option' that you've been clinging to, that's blocking you from conquering your persistent relationship problems
- Discover how to get your needs met even if your recurring relationship problems are a work in progress so you can build positive momentum *today* in your relationship
- Learn the rinse & repeat formula that makes any relationship problem figuroutable, so you never get stuck & stagnant again
Step Four
Respark Connection
- Identify your specific unmet needs so you can so you can better articulate it to your partner
- See your partner with fresh eyes with a powerful, research based process that you can practice whenever things feel stale
- How to maintain connection with your partner regardless of your hormones, moods & energy levels.
- Discover the Low/Mid/High Energy Quality Time Challenge that supports you to build quality time into your day based on your energy levels.
Ok Megs, what's the investment?
Like most people who try to fix their communication in their marriage, you could spend YEARS trying to figure this out on your own.
Podcast after podcast, more willpower, more psychoanalysis, subtly shaming your partner in to changing... all the things you've been trying that haven't worked-
You can continue to do it on your own.
Seeing a couples therapist can cost upwards of $800 per month-
Including having to make sure your partner also connects with the therapist & is fully engaged in the process (because if not, research shows that a disengaged partner makes couples therapy 50% less effective)
Or... you can get the skills you need to never stagnate in your relationship again. With coaching, accountability, support & a proven system.
Respark connection & get out of the roommates rut (for good) at a financial investment that supports your family.
THE INVESTMENT
Heirloom Marriage Society offers tiered, class-equitable, pay-what-supports-you pricing for monthly Membership. Our model is inspired by the Green Bottle Model from Worts + Cunning.
We want to help to create a conscious, intentional and value-aligned culture of payment. Please read the following criteria and determine which price is appropriate for you (please keep in mind this Membership includes access for your partner & is truly a Membership for TWO people):
Please be mindful that if you opt into a lower price when you can truthfully afford a higher price, you are limiting access to those who truly need the gift of financial flexibility. If buying this course means making short-term sacrifices, having to get creative, or asking others for financial support, but does not actually jeopardize your safety, we ask that you use those resources before using the sliding scale, which will limit opportunities for others.
You being honest about your financial situation helps us to grow a healthy and sustainable community.
You're Also Protected By Our 2-Click Promise & Money-back Guarantee
When you hear “cancel at any time” for a membership you start to wonder - what’s the PROCESS for getting out of my membership? Usually it’s an email, a convo, and it truly feels like a PAINFUL PROCESS. But not in Heirloom Marriage Society.
All you have to do is login to your account, click to your profile, and click cancel. In TWO CLICKS your membership is cancelled - you click - we handle the rest. PLUS A 30-DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE
If you become an Heirloom Marriage Society member and decide within 30 days it isn’t right for you - just let us know and we will refund your payment (yearly or monthly, it doesn’t matter).
What You Get At-A-Glance
WHAT YOU GET:
When you join the Heirloom Marriage Society Membership, you get immediate access to the private online membership portal. In it, you’ll find:
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The Heirloom Communication curriculum including 6 Modules & 40+ lessons designed for easy implementation & fast results
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Short, consumable 5 min - 35 min lessons that slip seamlessly in to your busy schedule
- Unlock exclusive bonus lessons inside the curriculum by submitting short feedback forms which I use to refine the curriculum to ensure I continue delivering a gold standard program
- 2x Monthly Q+A sessions to get personalised support
- Access to all past Q+A session recordings
To recap, let's look at what you get inside
STEP BY STEP
➜ The Heirloom Communication Curriculum breaks your journey down in to simple, bite sized steps so you build momentum fast.
WORKBOOKS
➜ Interactive workbooks so you can apply all the teachings in your routine, so you actually use the information
ADVANCED PROBLEM SOLVING
➜ Overcome recurring problems with a rinse & repeat process that works for even the most persistent, triggering challenges
SIMPLE COMMUNICATION TOOLS
➜ No nonsense communication tools with plug & play templates so can build on your skills & become your fully expressed self
24/7 SUPPORT
➜ 24/7 support in the membership community where you have direct access to me to celebrate your wins, ask questions, and get through roadblocks
MONTHLY COACHING
➜ Monthly Coaching & Q+A sessions from yours truly to answer your questions, clear up your doubts & keep you motivated and on track
MODULES
➜ 6 Modules (40+ lessons) so you get the step-by-step roadmap to leave the roommates rut behind for good without the guesswork!
90 DAY PLAN
➜ Your quick start guide to hit the ground running and support you to get the most out of your Membership
IT'S TIME TO MAKE A CHOICE.
Choice #1: Do nothing
As you probably already know, nothing changes if nothing changes. You can keep on trying to have more willpower or try to ‘figure it out on your own,’ but without the proper tools and support, you’ll make little progress.
Choice #2: Start with us
If you know you're ready for a change and to get the tools that actually work - and you’re ready to finally communicate like an emotionally secure adult, start responding with ease and finally enjoy your marriage again - then the choice is simple.
Simply choose your payment option & your complete holistic system for rebuilding your marriage and myself will be waiting for you on the other side!
If you’re still on the fence, unsure if you should take the leap - I want to share one last thing with you.
If you don’t make a point to break through what’s been holding you back & change your ways of thinking, the feeling of inadequacy and not being good enough will continue to hold you back in every area of youre life.
If you keep waiting for your circumstances to be ‘just right’ before you change, you are going to end up watching your life pass you by.
You deserve to stop being a spectator on the sidelines of your own life.
THE INVESTMENT
Heirloom Marriage Society offers tiered, class-equitable, pay-what-supports-you pricing for monthly Membership. Our model is inspired by the Green Bottle Model from Worts + Cunning.
We want to help to create a conscious, intentional and value-aligned culture of payment. Please read the following criteria and determine which price is appropriate for you (please keep in mind this Membership includes access for your partner & is truly a Membership for TWO people):
Please be mindful that if you opt into a lower price when you can truthfully afford a higher price, you are limiting access to those who truly need the gift of financial flexibility. If buying this course means making short-term sacrifices, having to get creative, or asking others for financial support, but does not actually jeopardize your safety, we ask that you use those resources before using the sliding scale, which will limit opportunities for others.
You being honest about your financial situation helps us to grow a healthy and sustainable community.
Frequently Asked Questions
What can I expect once I join the HMS membership?
Hey Megs, I'm not engaged or married, but I still want to join, can I?
Can we join as a couple & both get access to the membership?
What if I want to cancel?
My marriage is okay/good/great, do I need this?
How long do I have access to the membership?
What if I'm in an abusive relationship?
This all sounds overwhelming. How long will it take?
What if I can't make a Q+A call?
Do you offer refunds?
Rekindle your mad, passionate love- while modelling healthy, emotionally secure communication for your kids in the process.
Join Heirloom Marriage Society
✔️Complimentary access for your partner
✔️Heirloom Communication Curriculum
✔️Monthly Q+A Calls with Megs
✔️Editable PDFS & Workbooks
✔️30 Day Money Back Guarantee
Heirloom Marriage Society offers tiered, class-equitable, pay-what-supports-you pricing for monthly Membership. Our model is inspired by the Green Bottle Model from Worts + Cunning.
We want to help to create a conscious, intentional and value-aligned culture of payment. Please read the following criteria and determine which price is appropriate for you (please keep in mind this Membership includes access for your partner & is truly a Membership for TWO people):
Please be mindful that if you opt into a lower price when you can truthfully afford a higher price, you are limiting access to those who truly need the gift of financial flexibility. If buying this course means making short-term sacrifices, having to get creative, or asking others for financial support, but does not actually jeopardize your safety, we ask that you use those resources before using the sliding scale, which will limit opportunities for others.
You being honest about your financial situation helps us to grow a healthy and sustainable community.
